LESSON OF THE DAY 304

Ayahs of the Day:
The messenger and those who believe with him struggle by their property and their persons. So the good things are for them, and they are the successful ones. God has prepared gardens below which rivers flow, where they will abide; that is the great attainment. [9: 88,89]

Hadith of the Day:
The dinar and the dirham have destroyed those who were before you and they will destroy you. [Ibn Hibban]

Wise Quote of the Day:
Never assume that anyone in this world can really understand your own circumstances other than from the perspective of his own circumstances. [Ahmad al Zarruq]

Guidance of the Day:
As for the family of the deceased, they should be attended to by comforting them and assisting them through their mourning. The expression of sorrow, pain and anger is encouraged and accepted, provided it does not turn into histrionics, which are strictly forbidden. They are allowed to weep and mourn to the full, but never to slap their faces or rend their clothes, although it obviously happens at times.

They are reminded that, 'God is more Compassionate to them than a mother is to her infant,' that this is another trial that they must suffer, and that if they would only allow Him, God will help them and put fortitude in their hearts, forgive their sins and raise their degrees for it. All those who come to offer their condolences are expected to participate in this assuaging process, each in his own manner. The neighbors and relatives are expected to take over the task of preparing food for the visitors, seeing to the household needs. The family will be encouraged to visit the tomb, give away charity on behalf of the deceased, pray for him, recite the Qur'an, and, if required, perform Hajj and Umra on his behalf.

Until recently people of both sexes were encouraged to remarry not very long after losing their spouse. This resulted in the effective recognition of their lives, materially and emotionally, and the adequate fulfillment of the children's needs. [Man & The Universe]

Food for Thought:
Let us keep our mouths shut and our pens dry, until we know the facts.The surest thing to keep people from jumping down your throat is to keep your mouth shut.