Sunday, August 21, 2005

LESSON OF THE DAY 296

Ayah of the Day:
Like those before you, who were more powerful than you, richer and more populous. They enjoyed their share, and you enjoyed your share, as those before you enjoyed their share. And you enter into vain discussion as those who spoke idly. Their works are futile, in the world and the hereafter; and they are the losers. [9: 69]

Hadith of the Day:
Never does the Son of Adam fill a vessel worse than his stomach. It is enough for the son of Adam to have a few morsels to keep his back straight. But if he must, then let him assign one-third to his food, one-third to his beverage, and one-third to his breath. [Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah]

Wise Quote of the Day:
The one who takes his wealth from unlawful means is deprived in trusting in Allah. [Abdullah ibn Mubarak]

Guidance of the Day:
That people are not angels and that marriage can be very difficult is an acknowledged fact in Islam, and there are therefore instructions for both parties to pre-empt or remedy the main causes of discord.

The importance of safeguarding the marital relationship was very much emphasized by the fact that the Prophet, may God's blessings and peace be upon him, spoke of it on two of the most meaningful occasions, the farewell pilgrimage and on his death bed, when he was expected to mention only matters of the utmost importance.On both occasions he bade men treat their women well and he put the onus of preserving the relationship squarely on their shoulders.

Women are emphatically advised against one of the most common pitfalls, which is to deny their husbands' positive aspects and stress only on their negative ones. They are also told that simply to perform their minimal religious obligations and to obey their husbands (within the limits of the Divine Law) will guarantee them Paradise.

To prevent men from taking these instructions too literally and demanding from their wives total obedience, which is recognized, in fact, to be nearly impossible, the Prophet made it clear that divorce was not to be considered lightly, since it is, 'the permitted thing that is most hateful to God.' It is to be the last resort, after all attempts at reconciliation have failed, including arbitration by the two families' elders. Discretion is strongly enjoined on both spouses for obvious reasons. [Man & The Universe]

Food for Thought:
Reflect and you will reach a solution, for only by reflection can subtle problems be solved. Speech is like an arrow, it is necessary to aim it by way of reflection before uttering anything. Do not neglect the purpose of discourse, it's time, it's quality, it's quantity, and it's place.

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