LESSON OF THE DAY 266

Ayahs of the Day:
Having harmonized their hearts. Even if you spent everything on earth you would not have harmonized their hearts, but God harmonized them, for God is wise. O Prophet! Count on God, and the believers who follow you. [8: 63, 64]

Hadith of the Day:
God shall torment those who torment others in this life. [Muslim]

Wise Quote of the Day:
There is no good in prayer without concentration and calmness; there is no good in fasting without refraining from idle talk; there is no good in reading without contemplation; there is no good in knowledge without piety. [Ali radi Allah anhu]

Guidance of the Day:
Be sparing also when sharing past experiences with teenagers or children. Young people often have a hard time imagining that their elders were ever as young as they are. And it's specially hard for them to imagine that older people ever encountered challenges similar to the one's they are facing. Such lack of imagination is not their fault; it's just a normal part of being young.

You can still let youngsters know that you understand what they are going through. However, the best way is to engage them in friendly conversations about their own experiences. Ask pertinent questions, reflect back what you're hearing, and emphasize.

Tune in with all your attention. Once you have encouraged somebody to talk, the next step is to listen---really listen. This probably sounds simpler than it is. Many people have an unfortunate habit in conversation of planning the next thing they are going to say rather than turning in to what the other person is saying.

It may help to think about your conversation as a tour of some aspect of this person's life. Be willing to go along for the ride, asking questions in ways that show your sincere interest and natural curiosity. Listen in a way that feels natural, not forced. Your expressed interest ought to be genuine and consistent with your own personality. [The Relationship Cure]

Food for Thought:
Children tend to respect a firm father and love him more because of his firm training. and it is always best for the children to feel their mother's support for their father's authority, and the united front of their parents. Try to understand that any advancement to a better, happier life is difficult.