LESSON OF THE DAY 248

Ayahs of the Day:
For the worst of animals to God are the deaf and dumb who are not rational. If God had recognized any good in them, God would have made them hear; but if God had made them hear; they would have turned away, refusing. [8: 22, 23]

Hadith of the Day:
Whoever hopes for increase in their wealth and in their lifespan should maintain their ties of kinship. [Bukhari]

Wise Quote of the Day:
The one who claims to love Allah yet does not abstain from things prohibited by Him has lied; the one who claims to love the Prophet (may blessings and peace be upon him), yet dislikes the poor and needy has lied; the one who claims to love Paradise yet does not give charity has lied; and the one who claims to fear Hell yet does not give up sinning has lied. [Hatim al Asamm]

Guidance of the Day:
Emotional communication skills can be learned and perfected at any age. The greatest test of these skills comes as a couple seek a deeper level of intimacy and understanding in their relationship. If partners can continue to turn toward one another in mutually satisfying ways, their bond will grow stronger. But, if they begin habitually turning away or turning against one another, their relationship will disintegrate. Failure to connect is a major cause of high divorce rate.

Learning how to recognize and turn toward each other's bids for emotional connection can help unhappily married couples and their children to create a more stable, loving family environment. By improving your ability to connect emotionally with each other and your children, you will be in a better spot to solve conflicts and create a healthier environment for your kids. The cost of unhappy and failing marriages is high. In addition to the emotional turmoil that couples in stressed marriages experience, they also suffer more physical illness than others. Studies show that being unhappily married can raise your chances of getting sick by more than 35 percent.

Family stress caused by a couple's failure to connect can also effect the well-being of their children. Children raised in homes with a high level of marital hostility have chronically elevated levels of stress hormones. They have more bouts of infectious diseases like colds and flu, they have higher rates of psychological and social difficulties as well--problems like depression, rejection of peers, and poor behavior--especially aggression. They are also more likely to get bad grades and skip school. [The Relationship Cure]

Food for Thought:
The person of few words doesn't have to recall so many. Some people think they have an open mind when it is really their mouth.